Intimacy in marriage is crucial – many say it’s like a glue in the relationship. And as a married woman, I can tell you – it IS. One of the easiest ways to strengthen that bond is by reading well-grounded Christian marriage books on intimacy.
I’ve spent the first year of my marriage reading these kinds of books one after one and and I watched our relationship grow into a deeper and more fulfilling closeness than I had ever imagined.
And here’s the truth – this kind of connection isn’t about appearance, performance, or fancy outfits. It’s available to everyone who wants it and is willing to invest in learning and growing together.
Let’s dive into my favorite books on Christian intimacy in marriage that truly changed things for me.
1. Intimacy Ignited
Oh, this one certainly caught me off guard. I got it as a marriage gift from an older, wiser woman who gifted me three books (yes, all about marital intimacy!).
So I’ve started from this one, and it I’m glad I did. It focuses on the Song of Solomon, helping readers understand God’s design for intimacy and guiding couples on what’s appropriate and life-giving in a Christian marriage.
It is a great starting point for newlyweds, offering gentle encouragement to grow more comfortable and connected with one another.
2. Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask
This book feels like an honest and open conversation with trusted friends. It addresses many of the most common questions Christian women have about intimacy – even the ones we’re often too shy to say aloud.
Whether it’s questions about confidence, emotional connection, or how faith fits into the bedroom, this book approaches it all with compassion and biblical wisdom.
It was written with such kindness that I often felt like I was being gently guided and encouraged. One of my all-time favorites.
For sure, one of my favorite Christian marriage books so far! (And believe me, I’ve read a lot of them 😉
3. Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?
Yes, another Linda Dillow book – and for good reason! She writes with warmth and truth, without making the topic feel awkward or uncomfortable.
This book is especially helpful if you’ve been married for a while or are starting to feel like the spark is dimming a bit. It challenges you (in a good way!) to reflect on your heart posture and attitude toward your spouse and intimacy.
If I had to summarize one key takeaway, it would be this: learning how to give and receive love in balance.
4. No More Headaches: Enjoying Connection in Marriage
This book helped me better understand the differences between men and women and how those differences shape emotional and physical closeness.
When I first read it, I was only a few months into marriage and didn’t fully relate to the sections about parenting. But later on, I reread it and found those parts incredibly helpful in preparing me for the future.
It’s one of those books that gets better with time, and it’s worth keeping on your shelf for future seasons of life.
5. The Naked Marriage
This book stands out because it explores emotional intimacy as the foundation for physical connection in marriage.
The authors write with a light-hearted tone, which makes even the more serious topics easier to digest. What I especially appreciated is their openness in addressing issues many couples shy away from, like how to navigate difficult thoughts or past experiences as a Christian couple.
It’s an encouraging read that removes shame and replaces it with grace and guidance.
6. Intended for Pleasure: New Approaches to Intimacy in Christian Marriage
This book surprised me with its practical and respectful guidance. It offers a thoughtful look at intimacy from both a medical and spiritual perspective – which we don’t often get in Christian resources.
It provides clear, helpful information while staying firmly rooted in Christian values. One of the most valuable things I learned from it was how to better understand and serve my husband’s needs, and also communicate mine.
It’s an important read for every couple wanting to grow in unity.
It’s a must-have on every Christian marriage bookshelf!
Reading Christian Marriage Books Is a Great Investment
Marriage books don’t cost much, but the wisdom they give lasts a lifetime.
I have a special bookshelf just for my marriage books – they’ve helped me grow in ways I never expected. If I hadn’t read them, I might still be stuck in old patterns or confusion about how to build real connection.
So let me encourage you: choosing to learn about intimacy in marriage is always a good investment.
And remember – whenever in doubt, grab a good book and keep growing together.
I always say – whenever in doubt, go to the library!
So, which of the books will you start with? 🙂
Head to the Christian Marriage Posts Category to find your next read.
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